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细节是这样的：
孩子对老师讲的课是似懂非懂时就要问过究竟，老师不喜欢她挖得太深，所以对她提问便不耐烦。孩子便不敢再问，却为此而苦恼。我想老师应该有责任让学生弄明白。于是便Email给老师问他何时方便可以见我。但老师4-5天了竟然毫无反应。本人便直接去学校找他。前台工作人员派学生去，学生回来说：老师要明天下午3：45后才能见你。可是前台告知：明天学校close！并建议本人告校长，但校长不在。本人当时也很生气，最后告诉了counselor。那老师当时便有反应并订了预约。那是去年11份的事。但从此对孩子处处为难，便有了后来的故事。
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"孩子对老师讲的课是似懂非懂时就要问过究竟，老师不喜欢她挖得太深，所以对她提问便不耐烦。" It is a good thing that the child like to ask questions, however, the timing and how to ask need a lot of interpersonal skills. The child needs to come in with "an help needed" and the teacher is really appreciated after each little help provided to the child. Then a positive interaction is formed. If the child comes in with the attitute of get to the bottom, WITHOUT giving the teacher felexibility of how to answer, when to answer (he might have to go for an appointment...). Then the personal relationship is breakdown. If children not in USA long enough, might be lack of personal skills.
"本人当时也很生气，最后告诉了counselor。" Even adult need to learn how to self control. Nothing gets done with anger, but damage.
"于是便Email给老师问他何时方便可以见我。但老师4-5天了竟然毫无反应。本人便直接去学校找他。"
I will do the following steps:
1st email, Thank his hard work, and your child is greatly benefited from his hardwork. You need some more helps from him, his time and effort is greatly appreciated. When can I expect your return of email?
Two days later: friendly reminder-2nd request: Appreciate he read your email, and maybe he overlook your questions, would like to have his response ASAP. Again, understand he have some much going on daily, and wish he can spare some helping hand to you.
4th day, 3rd request. I am wondering if this is the right email address, if yes, can you comfirm you received my email and let me know if you can help me? Otherwise, please direct me to the right channel ask for help. Again, I understand your busy schedule, would like to thank you in advance.
Don't go to meet someone and have an discussion without an appointment, unless you are going to give a gift suprise!
During the conference, make sure you thank the teacher and school staff willing to arrange the meeting. And the goal of the meeting is to help you and your child better understand the grading system.
Both parents and the child need to improve personal and communication skills. |
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发表于 2011-3-10 12:05:07
